I can empathize with your pain, and I pray for your healing and comfort.
I can offer this, as well, besides the piece I wrote: Writing about it helps, a lot.... and keep your eyes and ears open for what God will say to you. He will speak and He has something to say.
Laz, when you were going through your grief of Cathy, I read everything you wrote. I knew I was facing the loss of my tough little guy, Max, the greatest, strongest little man on earth, he literally lived to protect and love me. You guys are all the best, and I knew all the words would comfort me, but your thoughts when Cathy died echo for me.