The burbs of San Francisco is my first and most important clue.
The left coast is notorious for all manner of strange (to a lot of flyover America) things and life-styles and if you work in the city, you pass by a million strange characters every day ... and they no longer phase you ... if they ever did.
The influence of the environment has been so effective in dulling your senses, you accept without thinking any subliminal; is it right? is it wrong?
Influenced is the evil Satan uses against us.
God gave him power over us, but he can't actually touch us (kill us) .. (btw .. I get this from the book of Job)
So Satan works using influence.
Lemmee try this;
A good little boy, properly reared and mannered goes to school with girls that wear clothing that sparks purient interests ... perhaps at an age we might think is inappropriate.
He starts to masturbate and chases girls early in life, gets one pregnant, marries 'cause it's the right thing to do, and has a miserable life
(of COURSE I invented that story)
No little girl MADE him masturbate ... but the INFLUENCE of sexuality was all that is needed.
You live on the left coast and I'd look in the mirror for anything that isn't USA, apple pie and Chevrolet ... and get rid of it ... even if it's stuff YOU like.
There WAS a time you looked into each others eyes with love ... SOMEthing influenced that look away ..
Find the influence and trace the steps from that influence.
Pray and hang in there.
stay away from . Neither of you want to compete with that trashporn