Four thoughts:
1. Unless there’s been some egregious violation of the vows on either side, don’t divorce.
2. If you have to ask total strangers for advice about keeping your vows, don’t divorce.
3. Marriage is the vows you took. The vows are the marriage. Your feelings and her feelings are the petty concerns of mere children by comparison. Pay these selfish feelings no mind. Just realize you have to grow up.
4. You also have children now. For their sake, honor your vows to each other, or they will be damaged irreparably.
My wife and I were having a bit of a spat several years ago. Not too bad, but the kids could tell. My one daughter asked “are you guys getting a divorce?” (Sad - but so many of their friends have divorced parents).
We explained no, we are not getting a divorce, we’re just mad, and we’ll iron things out. My wife said “When we got married and said “’till death do we part” we both meant it. And I said “Divorce is not an option.”
My other daughter, after thinking about it for a minute, asked; “Is that an option you sign before; or can you sign it after you get married?”