You simply have an epic failure of not understanding that approaches differ depending upon who you're talking to...
When Jesus was talking to sinners not caught up in their pride, he comforted them -- even when telling them (like the woman @ the well), to "go and sin no more."
When Jesus (& Paul) were talking to the religionists hung up on their legalism, he did the opposite: He afflicted the comfortable.
You and I am not in disagreement, in part. Let me tell you how I believe we differ.
I do not see “partial” children of God. You seem to do so.
Yes, different approaches to different people, but not to use over the top chastisements to those you disagree with. In your eyes, you may “count coup” for a put down or whatever, but you probably may not bring them one inch closer to God for all your pyrotechnics.
Will God honor your current efforts? I don’t know, but are you really willing to chance this destructive approach, for both the salvation of your own soul and that of theirs?
God bless.
Sursum Corda