Amen to that. After the gazillionth eHarmony profile of single, college-educated liberal women (ususlly teachers) who insisted on their match being either “socially conscious” or liberal like themselves I gave up (and at 43, that tends to be a pretty permanent proposition). I’ve decided to just “own” my status and aspire toward becoming the best I can be at what I do for a living and hopefully attaining a comfortable retirement.
Am I a “man’s man?” Goodness no; I’m part nerd, part 2A supporter, and part libertarian (small-”L” for the moment, at least). That doesn’t mean I’m at all interested in all the matches who thought that I should open up to the concepts of “social consciousness”, “the right to be ‘dramatic’” for no logical reason, or the “practicality of man-purses” (I kid you not!!!)
Long story short, you’re right—the online matching systems are somewhat of a joke; the signal-to-noise ratio is terrible and I’ve been forced to conclude that there are often good reasons why a certain subset of people on those sites are single.
Perhaps myself included. I’ll be the first to admit that calling me skittish is an understatement—for whatever reason I’ve turned into caution incarnate. Not that I enjoy it—but I might as well own it rather than sulk about it.
You already know this but the south.....especially the cotton states including Texas
There is no shortage of culturally conservative women
It is the norm
And they are feminine and don’t all go mannish looking at 30
Now I just relax, smile at the odd lass and give them a sultry glance now and again, and don't worry about chasing them.
Oddly enough, now that I am no longer actively in Pursuit mode most times, I get a lot more interest from the opposite sex then when I spent so much more of My time doing all that chasing when I was still testing the waters.
I think you are wrong, pal. I got remarried at 43 and I have never been happier and that was 25 years ago.