So what is going on in our society that young men should have become what you describe? You describe the problem and who to blame but you seem to have missed the point of the entire thread. Men are basically saying “women don’t need us and we certainly don’t need them”!
I blame both slackers and militant feminists. You talk about men not needing women. If a woman is not a militant feminist, men will pursue her more. And if a man is not a slacker, women will pursue him.