Posted on 01/11/2013 5:39:57 PM PST by ReformationFan
Fewer young men in the US want to get married than ever, while the desire for marriage is rising among young women, according to the Pew Research Center.
Pew recently found that the number of women 18-34 saying that having a successful marriage is one of the most important things rose from 28 percent to 37 percent since 1997. The number of young adult men saying the same thing dropped from 35 percent to 29 percent in the same time.
Pew’s findings have caught the attention of one US writer who maintains that feminism, deeply entrenched in every segment of the culture, has created an environment in which young men find it more beneficial to simply opt out of couple-dom entirely.
Suzanne Venker’s article, “The War on Men,” which appeared on the website of Fox News in late November, has become a lodestone for feminist writers who have attacked her position that the institution of marriage is threatened, not enhanced, by the supposed gains of the feminist movement over the last 50 years.
“Where have all the good (meaning marriageable) men gone?” is a question much talked about lately in the secular media, Venker says, but her answer, backed up by statistics, is not to the liking of mainstream commentators influenced by feminism.
She points out that for the first time in US history, the number of women in the workforce has surpassed the number of men, while more women than men are acquiring university degrees.
“The problem? This new phenomenon has changed the dance between men and women,” Venker wrote. With feminism pushing them out of their traditional role of breadwinner, protector and provider – and divorce laws increasingly creating a dangerously precarious financial prospect for the men cut loose from marriage – men are simply no longer finding
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So well said. Bravo.
Fred is an interesting character. He gets a lot right.
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And, its one of the places I can go and still find a laugh.
Where have all the good (meaning marriageable) men gone?
I’m right here at home, without noise blaring, everything calm and peaceful, my money safe, and I can do whatever I want without explaining exactly why the transmission is in the bathtub.
/johnny
I read your post and laughed. My dear husband has car seats in the living room.
Possibly true.
However, China and Japan consumed massive amounts of soy for at least a couple of millenia.
Say what you will about them, but few ever claimed the samurai weren't manly.
I’ve been thinking about this for the last 12 hours or so. In my family, no one got divorced, but I did have a cousin who called off the engagement. Everyone stayed together, I had great aunts and uncles who were together for 60 plus years until death parted them.
I figured I’d have that kind of marriage too, maybe not 60 years, since most of the women in the family go on for advanced degrees- but still - married by 30, would give you an estimated 30-40 plus years which isn’t bad.
I always got “you’re too nice”. “you’re too smart”, “you’re the type of girl I would bring home to mom and I just want to play the field right now”. I never had problem finding dates- it was getting a second or third date. I never put out- maybe that was a problem.
When I finally met someone I found out he stayed with me because I was making a lot more than he was and he liked that, he liked the fact that my job took me traveling to Europe several times a year and he could piggy back along. A year or so into the marriage my kidneys failed and he couldn’t deal with the fact I was sick, I was unable to work and he had to play nursemaid. (Didn’t the vows say in sickness and health?). He left big time, and I had the marriage annulled.
The hopeless romantic in me hopes I will find someone but I’ve taken myself off the market for good. I would rather have a friend(s) I don’t care if it’s male or female. Because of the health issues I am pretty much house bound but maybe someday I can get back there and do things again and meet people in the real world. If I meet a guy, that would be fine, but I’ll never marry again. The only requirements, he must have a kind heart, and he must like/hell, he must love cats.
My grandmother told me when I was 12 there was a lid for every pot. She and grandpa were so very happy. Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems to me that people up until say, the 60s or 70s had it easier in the love department than today. Maybe because times were simpler.
I envy them.
Thank you for this thread.
So, what are you saying?
To ALL:
I should have edited better- need coffee-
I wrote “ If I meet a guy, that would be fine, but I’ll never marry again. The only requirements, he must have a kind heart, and he must like/hell, he must love cats.”
I meant to put in between these sentences- if I ever do date again, my only requirements are - he must have a kind heart and love cats.
I apologize for any confusion and blame it on lack of coffee first thing in the am.
You’re welcome. I’m sorry about your health problems.
“My grandmother told me when I was 12 there was a lid for every pot. She and grandpa were so very happy. Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems to me that people up until say, the 60s or 70s had it easier in the love department than today. Maybe because times were simpler.
I envy them.”
JMHO but I think folks had more realistic expectations about what life is and was back then. Hence, most husbands and wives stayed together and I think they were more content. Sadly, so many youngsters today have an unrealistic expectation of what life promises from their teachers and from popular entertainment, it’s very hard for them to realize until too late that life is not a Disney movie.
“If they would just read and understand Proverbs 31 they could have their man in the palm of their hand.”
I totally agree there.
You are right about life and Disney.
Regarding health issues- it’s actually wonderful in a way. By almost dying it makes you appreciate how wonderful life is, how precious, something you take for granted, or at least something I was guilty of. That you don’t need money and the newest things to make you happy.
Today I’m happy having coffee with my mother or watching the sun rise or sun set with my cat. Having a friend come by my god child who is now in 1st grade and teaching him how to play ‘Go Fish”. I don’t know too many people IRL who still watch sun rises and sunsets.
What it adds up to is that men looking for traditional marriage partners are shopping in the wrong place. For women, imagining the brave new world of pseudo-equality in marriage, are unaware or in denial about what the consequences of their role ascendancy means for marriage, families and society. Of course, there's always some sociology professor someplace that will be interviewed/write an article/teach a class that will extol the greatness of liberation and freedom in women's live and new roles.
For what? To be another man?
No thanks.
Both my parents - who are good and respectable people - are on their FOURTH marriage.
Needless to say, my brother and I have never considered marriage an option for anything.
Fantastic! Thanks!
Yep...I experienced the same thing.
Wow, that Fred really lets it go. I LOVE IT!!!
Nope, they sure aren't. They know the Sandra Fluke's of the world are only good for one thing, and that's why the b*tch wants us to pay for her birth control!
“The Husband Store...”
I like that post. You may want to add something to the effect that when she does try to go back to the lower floors, she finds herself locked out, as she has lost her entry ticket to those levels, which was her young age. I know of a woman like that, and it’s heartbreaking to see what she’s going through now.
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