Yes it does. They think no one else has pain like they do - because they didn't care to ask or know. It's all about them. He could have, actually, helped someone else if he spoke of his pain but he was too focused on himself. There always is someone worst off. He didn't care to know, an island unto himself. So the way he handles pain is with a smile to deliberately deceive others - You can't see what is inside of ME. He may have been focusing on what he didn't have instead of what he did have!
It's always better to be honest than deceive. Don't you agree? He's was 23 with a job and able to work, a car, family/friends and living in America! He's already had more than most.
It's easy to stand on the outside and analyze...I was on that track one time (not the train track)...Once you get focused, you can't see anything else...Fortunately, I had a fried who watched me like a hawk til things got back to somewhat normal...
Had this guy over the last year or so that I played online games with. “Knowing” someone online is a bit hard, but I gleaned from his commentary that he suffered from health issues, chronic pain. He was married, had a young girl, 7 or so. Then, over the summer, realized the marriage was in trouble when he would comment that he had his daughter for the weekend.
In the fall, October I guess, his son put a message on his account: if you have heard from my dad, please get in touch with me immediately. Dad had been missing for a day or so, with his pickup.
He had killed himself. Oh, the pain. The pain of his family. The pain of even remotely attached people such as online friends. Several months now, and people are still commenting about the loss, the desire to have figured it out, to have been able to reach out to him.
You don't understand what's going on in their head. When someone commits suicide, they're not thinking normally. They're in so much pain, they think that the only way out -- the only way to solve the problem -- is to kill themself. They truly believe that no one will understand and that no one can help them. Whether that's true or not or whether they've already asked for help and didn't get it in their particular case doesn't matter -- they're completely blinded by their pain. They don't have the presence of mind for it to be "all about them."
He's was 23 with a job and able to work, a car, family/friends and living in America! He's already had more than most.
So you know all about his life, do you? Amazing.