It is called a refiner’s fire. We all go through it. You can look it up in the Bible.
Codependency is an illness.
Enabling people is an illness.
Healthy people are going to seek healing for themselves, over giving enabling.
By "it" here, I think you mean being without the means to obtain food to feed yourself. Enabling someone without work with a bag of groceries is not depriving them of a refiner's fire. It is called "compassion." You can find that in the Bible. It is also called "lending to the Lord." (Prov. 19:17) I think you said you were ceasing ALL charitable giving?
Codependency is an illness.
Codependency is a term in the manual for psychoheresy. It is not in the Bible.
Enabling people is an illness.
Helping people to keep on pursuing sinful behavior is misplaced compassion. But assisting someone in need through no fault of their own is not. It is God's method of offering you an opportunity to demonstrate mercy. "Enabling" as you use it is also a nonbiblical clinical psychology definition.
Healthy people are going to seek healing for themselves, over giving enabling.
The craniotomy required to remove a tumor about the size of a small lemon from within my skull was an expense I could never have paid for, nor was it an affliction I could have changed by my attitudes. I was very grateful for the provision of neurosurgery and a place in which to rest while healing.
I hope you have the gracefulness to be corrected through reproof.
With regards --