Posted on 08/18/2012 10:26:18 PM PDT by bicyclerepair
Hi FRiends, Boy do I need someone to talk to.
Just came back from dropping off my daughter at college and the empty house is making me cry so much.
Been a member since 2004. This is my first post. So sorry but I can't stop feeling sad and hurting inside because I miss her so much.
I respect you all so much and value your comments. Some are harsh, but most are honest and decent. So maybe I can drown my heart-ache reading your thoughts.
Sincerely, bicyclerepair--Ft. Lauderdale
UCF is a good school and she close. Chill out, she’ll be fine.
-PJ
Not at all. I miss my daughter also. But remember the rhyme: “A son is a son till he takes him a wife. A daughter’s a daughter for the rest of her life.” Take comfort in that. She will be very busy for a while but it will pass. She will always be in your life. The immediate pain will subside faster than you expect as you get used to the new “temporary” normal. You can count on it.
: )
It will be rough for her and you the next few months. Don't kid yourself.
My Sis and BIL brought their oldest to Gainsville today. They live in Ft. Lauderdale too. Next year the youngest will be heading out. : (
Thankfully, they will still have their dog.
You will get over it. Time heals.
For now, remember how it feels. In time you will smile.
At one point in my life I cried a lot because I missed my family members who had passed on so much. I prayed and asked God to help me stop crying so much. It was a kind of funny way He worked. I was on a drive and a Church sign said, "Tear not, for I am with you". I really felt like Jesus was speaking to me. After that day I was able to stop crying too much. So I pass this on to you also, tear not because He is with you!
She will be back for Christmas.
Sheesh!!!!!!
; )
Everyday that goes by you miss them a little less, until that moment of everyday that you think of them and you miss them but you can’t wait to see them. When you do see them again make the most of those times.
AND FOR GOD’S SAKE DON’T LISTEN TO “CATS IN THE CRADLE.”
For a degree is Bio-Medical Sciences, she wants to be some sort of surgeon. So I kept my mouth shut about Øbamacare most of the time. Just want her to do what she wants and likes.
Yeah, time heals all wounds. Been saving large projects for after she was at college. The last week it’s been hard to not cry. Two months ago at orientation up at UCF, my wife and my Mom balled their eyes out with her. But it didn’t hit me until this past week.
I held it in while saying bye tonight though. I was strong. It’s so interesting reading all your comments. Thanks again.
Welcome to the “empty nest” club. Of course, they always come home, sometimes for longer periods than other times. I do have one word of advice: “pets”. A dog, a couple of cats, chickens, even... whatever. The value of having other living beings around you (and that depend on you) cannot be overstated.
Meanwhile, there’s always cell phones, Skype, email, etc.
Skype is really cool.
In Blu-Ray!
-PJ
You are not stupid. We do not feel that you are stupid for posting this.
There is some pain and sadness that a major phase of life has ended, as your daughter is going off into the world. But, just know that this is a part of life. You yourself, at some point, grew up and moved out of your parent’s house, and got married and moved on into adulthood. Your daughter is taking those first steps now.
I felt similarly when both of my children moved out of the house. But, it’s the natural order of things, that children grow up and leave home to create their adult lives.
Heh.. You posted 17 seconds before me but we obviously think alike (Skype).
FRegards,
LH
Go visit her in two weeks. Meet her friends. Keep in touch by email, etc.
From a Mom, who in a span of five years, took four sons off to college...I promise that it hurts a little bit less every day.
I still remember dropping my Sis of at AU in DC. My father is a tough one. : )
She had one suitcase and that was it. Everyone else had moving vans. To make things worse, AU had her in the male dorm. I still remember waving to her as we drove off. She stood there so forlorn. It still breaks my heart. But she survived beautifully, although that Freshman year for her really sucked. She'd call me crying.
She’s three hours away. She’ll probably pop home on weekends, and bring you her laundry.
Hate to break this to you, but you got the bronze. See post 24.
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