"Hello, ladies!"
Attraction between Friends of Opposite Sexes
from a social sciense study published in Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.
No thanks.
First, I want to add my voice to what I’m sure are many other freepers, saying “BS” to this claim.
I work with many many women, and I don’t think ANY Of them want to sleep with me, and there’s only one or two that I think would even be tempting to me in that regard.
Still, I have no doubt that there are dynamics in the workplace with sexual attraction. I know companies have to spend a significant amount of effort to overcome the problems associated with having people with natural sexual attraction working closely together.
that is absolute fembot horseshit
it should read:
If you are hot then likely every man you work with thinks about what it would be like to "____" you or at a minimum what you look like underneath the Ann Klein business suit
that is just how we are....
but to add that we think all women want to bang us is so much crap...i never thought that unless they made overtures
This is NOT true..
IF THE MALE FINDS YOU ATTRACTIVE, then yes, in the back of his mind he may want to sleep with you no matter what your relationship is. That doesn’t mean intellectually they are going to do so etc etc.
However, IF THE MALE FINDS YOU UNATTRACTIVE, then sleeping with you is not on his mind, even a little bit, unless he’s going through one INCREDIBLY long dry spell or something.
I bet Mr. Poet thinks like this.
BTW, no, not every woman I have met or worked with, not by a longshot.
It might be safe to say that part of the male mindset is to evaluate whether a woman is a potential mate, but there is so much to remove a woman from that category these days (not to mention mentally declaring one's self ineligible to participate) that the biology comes in a distant second to other considerations.
It is interesting that the writer perceives men as being led about solely by their glands, mindless slaves to their hormones.
"Hello, ladies!"
Three questions occur within 7 seconds of meeting a woman, any woman:
1) Could I sleep with her?
2) Could I pay the price (all aspects)?
3) Is she worth it?
For most well-adjusted and well-relationshipped men, this mental subroutine occurs in the background and it requires some effort to be aware of it. Go ahead, look for it - you’ll find it.
Now, for the happily married man, the answers to the questions are all happy ones:
1) Could I sleep with her? OF COURSE!
2) Could I pay the price? NOT A CHANCE!
3) Is she worth it? ARE YOU KIDDING?
But once you’re in relationship trouble, those answers get harder to swallow. And for most single guys, where the answer to #1 is NOT A CHANCE, the answer to #2 is I GOTTA TRY, and #3 depends on the time of day, the BAC, and a variety of other factors all too familiar to those who have been single after age 20 or so.
Reading the replies here has been interesting. While I don't doubt that temptation can cross anyone's mind, that's a far cry from EVERY man TRYING to sleep with every woman they meet and thinking that all those women are TRYING to sleep with them right back.
People may THINK about it and maybe even want it, but TRYING like the article says? I don't think so.
Research for this? DUH, the answer was obvious to begin with.
How the heck do you think I met my wife (27 years in October)?
There was a gal in my office who put out signals to me and I was tempted until being promoted into management as her boss which quashed that idea.