Good post...I can’t say I cannot have attractive female friends, but I would hesitate to have an attractive one that I would go out to dinner with alone. My wife would likely not blink an eye, but I don’t want to put her in that kind of situation.
I guess I don’t believe in tempting fate. I sometimes have the vanity I am a virtuous person, but as it is with tough times, it is hard to predict in advance how you will act under certain kinds of pressure. I would like to think I would withstand the test, but I don’t want to get myself in a position to have to test it.
I understand what you are saying, I just can’t relate to it.
I guess my husband and I were so set in our way when we first met we just accepted each other as we are. I also grew up with the attitude that men and women could be friends without issue. To this day, my dad has more gal friends than guy friends (he’ll be 75 next month) and before her death, my mother had mostly guy friends.
I was in the middle of a really nasty divorce when my husband and I first met. The last thing I was interested in was any kind of relationship other than drinking buddies. My ex was of the mind set that he could have female friends, but I could not have male friends because neither they nor I could be trusted if alone. Of course, he was the only one in the marriage with a proven track record of cheating.......
Oh well, none of that is either or there. I just disagree with the premise men and women can’t just be friends. while it is true some can’t, it is not universal.