Just an observation of my own: I've uniformly found those who are obsessed with the physical appearance of potential mates fair poorly in the long run. Outside of Hollywood, very few men or women resemble at the 40 the person they were at 20. At 50 or 60, fuggedaboutit. I've seen it play out first hand with shallow spouses of both sexes. Guys who felt like they deserved a centerfold hottie instead of their middle-aged wives, and vain women who just couldn't handle that the HS football captain was now bald and paunchy.
I would expand that. Those who are obsessed with traits other than the person themselves (appearance, income, status, etc) will fare poorly in the long run. Men or women who marry for the looks or the money will become disillusioned eventually, because looks rarely last, and it is a given that money might not either.
Many people, men and women do settle for less from what they originally tried or thought they could get...I was not just saying this happens to women only. I can't tell you how many guys I know who have scoffed at dating a 5/10 women in HS or college but are now engaged or married to them and are very happy.
When I say settle for less I'm not downgrading or belittling 5/10's as not being worthy or the person was lowering themsselves just to get married..what I am trying to say is these guys were 5/10 themselves and thought they could bag a 9/10 women and eventually came to the realization they had to "settle" within their own league. Does that make sense? That is what I mean by "settling"
Just an observation of my own: I've uniformly found those who are obsessed with the physical appearance of potential mates fair poorly in the long run.
I agree 100%.. the relationship should never be based on looks as first priority.