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Mar 6, 2012 @ 11:22
amwell I had commented back in December about my husbands porn problem. Since then, we have gotten rid of the internet in the house, neither one of us has a smart phone or tablet or anyway of accessing internet. I threw away the 40+ DVDs that was collected before our marriage.
After, the last time i caught him I told him that one more incident and that was it, I couldn’t handle another lie, another fight. He refused therapy. And just last week, we were at his parents house while a pretty bad storm was going through. He had made a comment about downloading a movie for us to watch, which raised my concern. So, I checked his parents computer and surprise, surprise more porn.
What man gets so desperate that he downloads porn on his parents computer and then puts it on a thumbdrive to watch...wtf? So, I’ve kicked him out and I am contemplating divorce. This is just a really crappy situation because now this will leave me a single mother with 2 kids from 2 different men. Who could ever want to be with me again with all that baggage.
I never intended my husband and I to divorce and wanted more children with him. We have only been fighting about this for about 4 months, with about 5 different occurances and him saying he would stop. So, I guess my problem is how early is too early to give up? If he considers therapy, do I stay? I honestly don’t think I can. The trust is gone! My self esteem is ruined! Any suggestions?
Here is a site that might help you. It sounds like you have a good marriage outside of this problem. Don’t give up, he apparently is addiction and probably hates himself for not being able to stop, probably laughs about it and says it’s not a big deal, when he really is miserable. I’ll pray for you both. Something to think about, over 50% of men in this county have this problem. I think Hollywood has been slowly pushing us, including our kids, into this, always trying to go further and futher, not caring about the effects on people or children. They say turn off your tv...you can’t be with your kids 100% of the time. Ever see the move “Fireproof”? That is what part of the movie is about. It’s really good. Have tissues, it makes you cry.
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http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce_and_infidelity/dealing_with_pornography.aspx