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Doesn’t look like “conservative” men on FR understand even yet.

Billy Graham:

Pornography treats people as mere objects to be used for our own selfish gratification. Pornography also destroys the meaning of true love. The Bible is clear: “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality,
or of any kind of impurity” (Ephesians 5:3).

Never forget that what goes on in our minds eventually influences the way we act. Jesus warned, “I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28).

Make it your goal to keep your mind pure, as well as your
body.

Conservatives in general will agree with you and everything you quoted Billy Graham as saying. But here is one conservative who will not agree with any suggestion that the "solution" to psychopathic murder is to ban pornography.

It is to be noted that Ted Bundy credits alcohol abuse as well as hard-core pornography with stimulating his madness. Yet I would not believe that you or any other conservative on this forum would realistically advocate the return of prohibition in order to control psychopathic murderers.

Billy Graham speaks to the individual and his relationship with God but conservatism speaks to the individual and his relationship with government which is an entirely different matter. That which is good and meet for the individual in his relationship with God is not necessarily a reason to legislate.

I believe that social conservatives, of whom I count myself one on many issues, do a great disservice to our cause and to their own cause when they seek to legislate in areas best left to the grace of God.

I would agree with the posters who have suggested that a psychopath might be interested in pornography and the causation might run the other way, in other words, the pathology precedes and creates interest in pornography rather than pornography generating the pathology. I also agree with the posters who suggest that anecdotal evidence is not persuasive because, even if true that most of the serial murderers and rapists indulge in pornography, that does not show causation because coincidence does not prove causation.

One might say that who cares which came first, the chicken or the egg, pornography or the pathology, because there is nothing uplifting about pornography even if it does no harm. So there is absolutely no reason not to ban it. But one might apply that logic to bringing back prohibition and banning alcohol. The unintended consequences of legislating in these areas cannot be fully understood much less anticipated.

——Billy Graham:
Pornography treats people as mere objects to be used for our own selfish gratification. Pornography also destroys the meaning of true love. The Bible is clear: “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality,

or of any kind of impurity” (Ephesians 5:3).——

Pornography has destroyed countless marriages. The causal relationship hardly needs proof, except for those who will accept none.

http://www.recoveryranch.com/articles/sex-addiction/more-attorneys-say-internet-pornography-a-factor-in-divorce/

A personal testimony, for the hard-hearted (http://www.squidoo.com/herheart):

How has this effected my marriage? It has stolen my husband from me. In result of his addiction, he has become incredibly irritated, moody, & angry, His behavior toward the children and I are unfavorable. He becomes depressed and has low self esteem. My husband the man I believed could hang the moon. My hero. He’s fallen into a black hole. I know I can’t change him, but I thought if I could some how love more, pray more, forgive more he would change. I have discovered that there is nothing I can do to help him. In fact I have hurt him by becoming his enabler. Although I believed otherwise all these years.

t has been difficult to find resources that deal with a sexual addition. I’ve bought material from the bible book store & from pure life ministries that has given me insight into the addiction, but I needed a resource for me, a wife of a porn addict. What am I suppose to do? What are the steps I have to take?... I do not want to give another minute of my life to an addict. I love him but he needs help. And that’s where I am today... He either gets the help he needs and deserves or I am leaving (this time I am). I’ve said it hundreds of times before so I know he doesn’t believe me. By staying I am hurting him by enabling him, I am hurting myself and my children.

Yeah. Harmless. Right.