“It has been my job all my life to make my daughter happy. Now it will be your job.”
I don’t have daughters so I will never understand that one. Happiness is one’s own responsibility.
IMO, that's the fundamental error underlying the whole thing. It's NOT a father's job to make his daughters happy. His job is to teach them to be holy. Same job, BTW, for his sons. Similarly it's not a husband's job to make his wife happy. His job is to help her to be holy. The converse is also true. Happiness in this life may well result from holiness, but is not an end in itself.
Or so it seems to me.