“He could have used the free ZabaSearch.com to find her name, and then, knowing the area (within reason) that she lived in, and knowing her age (from the license), he could have found her phone number and called her.”
“Meaning he still used official information for his personal purposes.”
I don’t think your name is official information; more properly you could say he used his official position to do wrong, not official information.
You said he knew her age. That is an enumerated item of Personally Identifiable Information, so it is a protected piece of information. Also, any attempt to contact a person having resulted from an offical contact is also against ethics and can result in termination.
“I don’t think your name is official information”
Actually, it is. It is also a PII since it resulted from an official contact. He wouldn’t have had it if it weren’t for the official contact.