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1 posted on 12/08/2011 11:52:07 AM PST by AUJenn
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It’s not your place to tell her how to live her life or who she can see.

Does she tell you how to live your life?

Been there, seen that. There are more important things in life than worrying about how someone else enjoys their life.


2 posted on 12/08/2011 11:57:19 AM PST by shelterguy
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I’ve got a militantly lesbian cousin. I’ve found that the best way to deal with her is to ignore her “issues”.


3 posted on 12/08/2011 11:59:53 AM PST by cripplecreek (Stand with courage or shut up and do as you're told.)
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Forgive my bluntness ....

You have made this situation about you. It’s not.

That baby is going to need loving family members, just as your children need. Do it. Be there for the child.


4 posted on 12/08/2011 12:00:45 PM PST by dmz
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I do not have gay family, nor hiave I been in a similar situation.

You are correct in seeing this as wrong. Were I in your shoes, I would:

Be supportive of your sister, but let her know that she is wrong. The KEY is that she has ‘decided’. It was a decision, not a predisposition. Same-sex physical relationships and unions are wrong, not to celebrated or allowed into a families life.

I would welcome her to my home, not her partner. The child? Part of me says No, it is of no blood to you, the child could/would be used as a pawn to crack open your door. Part says to welcome the child, it is innocent, not deserving of rejection in all this. That is a hard spot. Prayer, lots of prayer.


6 posted on 12/08/2011 12:01:23 PM PST by RoadGumby (This is not where I belong, Take this world and give me Jesus.)
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**I have a small child and am expecting again**

That has to be the most difficult concern for you.

Short of moving to a different State - I have no idea how I would handle this.

The closest gay relative in the family is a cousin - but she lives in England and I have never met her. Thankfully, there are no small children in her partnership, just a dog. She is, however, the most attentive (of her siblings) to their elderly mother.

Good luck and God bless.


8 posted on 12/08/2011 12:02:06 PM PST by sodpoodle ( Gingrich - flying solo - without congressional baggage!!!)
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My advice is for you to be the best parent you can to your children and the best example to others.


9 posted on 12/08/2011 12:02:06 PM PST by NativeSon
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How many times during the year do you see these people? If it’s just a few times during the holidays, I’m sure you can be gracious without getting involve with discussions about their lifestyle.

You don’t have to necessarily congratulate them.
You can wish the baby well.
Concentrate on the child when you see them and that will keep the atmosphere calm.


10 posted on 12/08/2011 12:04:04 PM PST by CaptainK (...please make it stop. Shake a can of pennies at it.)
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Unless it’s your child, I’d just smile like a dumb puppy at family events and be unaffected by it all.

Don’t give your opinion unless asked, and if asked just say something simple.

It’s not your job to teach them a lesson or hold up rating cards. They’ll work out their issues on their own, there’s probably a lot more to it you don’t know or want to know.

You can’t choose your family so just keep smiling


11 posted on 12/08/2011 12:06:00 PM PST by Mount Athos (A Giant luxury mega-mansion for Gore, a Government Green EcoShack made of poo for you)
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If you’re asked your opinion, give it without equivocation or apology. If you’re not asked, don’t volunteer it. If the subject turns to the baby, keep your mouth shut. You’ll say just as much by not saying anything at all.

It is clear this family member has made her decision. She has a right to do that. And you have a right to deal with her — and her decision — in any way you choose. If she demands the right to “be herself,” then she has to accord you the same courtesy, even if you disagree with her choices.


12 posted on 12/08/2011 12:06:25 PM PST by IronJack (=)
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She has elected not to exist.

There is no need to support or even have her part of your or your children’s lives.

You do not need to buy her presents.

You do not need to endorse her choice of having a fatherless child via “congrats”.

Keep her away from your children.

Keep the door open if he ever reprents and finds her way back to normal. Until then, she has elected to exclude herself from the famil in favor of a sex fetish.


13 posted on 12/08/2011 12:06:58 PM PST by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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Not much you can do here. Best advice- let it go and take care of your own.


14 posted on 12/08/2011 12:08:14 PM PST by Nachum (The complete Obama list at www.nachumlist.com)
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Since you have a small child, you can surely be fully distracted whenever in their presence so as to preclude having any kind of cohesive conversation. So I would suggest you try to avoid any conversation about their pregnancy and expecting status, and talk about the weather, yourself, how busy the holidays are for you, etc., to the point they try to get away from you.


16 posted on 12/08/2011 12:10:51 PM PST by NEMDF
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What a difficult situation. The problem with just being all loving, while not liking the situation, gives the impression that you are supportive. I wouldn’t continue to spend time with the relative for fear that your child, or another family member will be influenced by a loved family member. Shut the door on sinful lifestyles! Protect your child and your beliefs! The world will constantly be teaching “tolerance” of homosexuality... they don’t need anymore encouragement at home. That said, I’d continue to correspond on email with the relative without letting them be an influential part of my family’s life.


18 posted on 12/08/2011 12:13:42 PM PST by Sweet Hour of Prayer
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Just treat them like family if they are family. Everyone has an issue or another. I often think about the whole, pulling the plank out of your own eye verse.


19 posted on 12/08/2011 12:15:26 PM PST by mnehring
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Is she aware that you don’t approve of her situation? As a Christian, you should be kind to her but at the same time, she’s not entitled to your approval for the decisions she makes in her personal life.

The closest I’ve been to a similar situation was when I worked for a company where one of the managers and her lesbian girlfriend were having an IVF child. What was annoying was the way they expected the folks at the office to give approval to this. I thought they were clearly crossing a boundary there since we were just her co-workers not necessarily her friends.


20 posted on 12/08/2011 12:15:31 PM PST by ReformationFan
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I have a similar situation with a Niece. The problem for me is that I don't want my children exposed to that sort of lifestyle or to feel I condone it, anymore than if the Niece was an drug abuser or into the occult. Therefore, I will not let my children spend time around her and her “partner” unless I am present. She has asked to take the kids places or for them to spend the night, I am always polite but firm in my refusal. I feel bad, because I let the children do things with other relatives, but you have to draw the line somewhere. I recently explained to my older child what homosexuality is and why it is considered sinful and wrong. I explained that this was they type of relationship that my niece and her friend but that we should still be polite and hopes she renounces her sin.
23 posted on 12/08/2011 12:19:00 PM PST by apillar
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But I have no idea how to publicly act or respond to this situation - especially at upcoming family holiday events. I don't feel like happily telling them 'congratulations!' or talking about baby things.

What do you feel like saying or doing? If it's likely to turn these upcoming family holiday events into uncomfortable situations for everyone involved, I'd suggest you keep it to yourself. Any issues you have with this family member should be addressed between the two of you privately - there's no need to air it out during family events and spoil the holidays for other members of the family.
26 posted on 12/08/2011 12:21:26 PM PST by AnotherUnixGeek
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Only thing to do with a family member is try to love them, and let them know it. You might explain that you don’t want your children exposed to homosexuality, and ask her to respect that. If she can’t, it might be time to part ways. Your responsibility is towards your children first.


28 posted on 12/08/2011 12:23:20 PM PST by pallis
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Why not accept the fact that not everyone will be the way you want them to be?


29 posted on 12/08/2011 12:23:51 PM PST by stuartcr ("Everything happens as God wants it to...otherwise, things would be different.")
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It sounds to me that you're handling it well.

I have a sister who is a lesbian, and unfortunately also an Obama supporter. It's not much of a problem, since she lives in the midwest.

31 posted on 12/08/2011 12:24:53 PM PST by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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