Forgot to add:
Once while drunk, he yelled at her about how badly he wanted to kill her.
Then, naturally, he cried and apologized the next day and she accepted it.
Typical. They always do.
The other fine people here have covered the muzzie angle very well...and it might be too abstract or “out there” for her to believe.
*Might be* closer-to-home to get her to realize
she is in an abusive relationship:
“Once while drunk, he yelled at her about how badly he wanted to kill her.
Then, naturally, he cried and apologized the next day and she accepted it.”
Abusers offer crumbs (ego kibbles) after episodes to keep their victim(s). It also is a way to keep the victim off-balance (with the back-and-forth ping-ponging) which is necessary for the abuser.
Why isn’t she getting counseling for her depression? Does she deny she’s depressed?
Also, intertwined with this train wreck is her co-dependency. I know alot of people who have been helped tremendously by this book:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependent_No_More
(but usually AFTER the damage...sigh)
Sussing out the family source of her low self esteem might help in eliminating that person from any planned ‘intervention’ - which I agree with.
In this case, being a muz is an ADVANTAGE, because the notified authorities will take that much more interest.
I see this as trying to save your friend’s life.
For you, I don’t see a downside to doing all this stuff beforehand. I worry about the drama-quotient in your life, being attacked YOURSELF, for instance...for “daring” to mess with (protect) HIS possession. So, if you “lose” the friendship for trying...God’s will I suppose, to protect YOU. (Unless you relish the idea of 3am calls, door knocks in the middle of the night, trips to the jail - or morgue...no kidding)
Do all you can do, then detach.
Don’t
Even
Think
About
Changing
Her/Him
Pray.
I am.
Threatening her life while drunk has nothing to do with his Muslim faith or politics. He’s an abuser and they come in all flavors. She should be getting treatment for her depression which may be linked to this abusive relationship. I’d focus on her health and safety.