I’ve only been able to find this workaround at http://reviews.cnet.com/8301-13727_7-10330103-263.html
It involves writing a script and then you can treat it more like a Windows recycle bin. Have fun?
One of the things I think Apple should’ve done better.
>>>One of the things I think Apple should’ve done better.
There’s nothing wrong with it if you know how to use it.
Apple came at the problem with a different set of assumptions. When you delete an individual file in the Trash window on the Dock, the file isn't deleted from the system. It goes back to where it came from. So if you don't really want to delete a file, easily move it back to where it came from. Or move it somewhere else. If a file remains in the Trash window, then the system assumes that you really want to delete it.
To remove files in the Trash folder one at a time, you need to go to the command line.