There seems to be a lot of parents that don’t make their kids mind. On the other hand in defense of some of those parents. I have an autistic child who is also learning disabled and also has ADHD to the max. She also looked normal. When she was 4 her doc told me that he had never seen a child as hyper as she was and put her on ritalin. If you read the pdr it recommends not putting a child on ritalin until about 6 years old. She was like dealing with a wild animal, she understood very little and her communication at that age was of about a 1 year old. She was also tacitly defensive. Every time I tried to hold her hand she would throw herself down to the ground screaming, or she would spit, bite herself or me and whack herself in the head with her fist. So it was either a stroller which she was fine in, as long as you were moving, or a grocery cart if the store had one, this seemed to help keep her calm. Of course not all stores have carts and she outgrew the stroller.
Just sayin.
“just saying.”
Just saying what? That you like to speak in half or incomplete sentences?
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Otherwise keep it to yourself/S
Don’t apologize for your child — as one of God’s children, your autistic child is every bit as blessed as any other human on earth. And maybe more so.
I agree with most of LZ’s article, but your comment underscores the reasons why people should not judge a situation without all the facts. It’s not unlike adults who are sick, yet don’t appear sick.
You and your child are not the ones the writer is targeting with the article. It’s the dreadful parents that allow their kids to behave like primative heathens in public. (With apologies to primative heathens everywhere.)
Parents want to be ‘frends’ with their kids and hold back on any sort of punishment for bad behavior. This includes not correcting children when they throw themselves down in a store because Mommy didn’t buy them a toy, or not keeping them in their chairs at a restaurant. Sorry, kids need their parents to be parents and prepare them for the life outside of Mommy and Daddy’s sphere of protection.
I, for one, think parents like the one illustrated in this article are the exception, not the rule. I live in Small Town, TX and I don’t see that many brats. When I do see them, they make an impression, albeit a bad one. It’s the behavior of all the well-behaved kids that you forget. At least, that’s what I am choosing to believe.
Unfortunately, autism is so over-diagnosed and misdiagnosed that it is becoming a synonym for “undisciplined child syndrome”.
There are some parents of children with a mental disorder who use the disorder to beg other adults to excuse *ALL* the child’s misbehavior.
Those parents ruin it for the parents whose kids really suffer from the disorder.