THe further on men and women are single, the harder it is for them to get married. They are used to living single and having everything their way.
That is true...i know the first couple of years i was married, i was constantly saying “my” this or “my” that..had to learn how to say “our”...i realized it hurt my wife’s feelings and i needed to drop that habit.
It is a balancing act, because you are both an individual and a couple at the same time.