I am 42, never married, go to church 75% of the Sundays, cook, clean, great job, advanced degrees, and single.
I wasted time on women that ended up as bad relationships. They ended before marriage, and I consider myself lucky to have had friends wake me up to a bad decision before it happened.
Dating now seems harder because women do think there is something wrong if you have not been married. It mostly seems that the single women have all the baggage. They run backround checks on you and check your credit report. You can tell by the questions they ask on a first date when they are trying to confirm details from the credit report.
The truth is that the current crop of “single” women are a bit narcissistic. A man that wants to get married and have kids is turned off by this behavior. I will eventually run into a woman that is a good fit and has the potential to be my partner in everything. Women that say there is something wrong with a guy over 40 that is single should ask herself why she is turning them off.
I don't intend to sound cold-hearted, but if you are 42 and never married and no prospects, maybe you are part of the problem. There are lots of wonderful women in your age range. I also know a number of guys 40+ who are great guys, but have no idea how to communicate in an intimate level; and a woman who is worth seeking at that age has no interest in a guy who can't communicate.