Its difficult to adore a MAN who abandoned his wife and children because he suddenly became enlightened, so I really do not care what buddha says or what is discovered or whatever.
Buddha did not abandon his wife and children (all royalty) - he had promised to return - and lamented over that separation that would result from his taking up the quest. Upon his return, they were among his first disciples - an unlikely feat if they really bore anger towards him for "abandoning" them. A similar argument could be said of Christopher Columbus, too, who left family (who did not have any equivalent royal protection) to go beyond the "edge of the world".
"For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. He that loveth his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me."
- Matthew 10:35-37
Tigerseye can probably elaborate better.