Posted on 03/08/2011 10:54:33 AM PST by dawn53
All parents know that having kids is a blessing except when it's a nightmare of screaming fits, diapers, runny noses, wars over bedtimes and homework and clothes. To say nothing of bills too numerous to list. Some economists have argued that having kids is an economically silly investment; after all, it's cheaper to hire end-of-life care than to raise a child. Now comes new research showing that having kids is not only financially foolish but that kids literally make parents delusional.
Researchers have known for some time that parents with minors who live at home report feeling calm significantly less often than than people who don't live with young children. Parents are also angrier and more depressed than nonparents and each additional child makes them even angrier. Couples who choose not to have kids also have better, more satisfying marriages than couples who have kids. (More on Time.com: 5 Pregnancy Taboos Explained (or Debunked))
To be sure, all such evidence will never outweigh the desire to procreate, which is one of the most powerfully encoded urges built into our DNA. But a new paper shows that parents fool themselves into believing that having kids is more rewarding than it actually is. It turns out parents are in the grip of a giant illusion.
(Excerpt) Read more at healthland.time.com ...
And people with missing brain stems don't worry about their taxes as often as people with functioning brains.. So what's your point, Mr. Libertine?
The writers of this article make the mistake of assuming that everyone is the same as them: self-absorbed, narcissistic dirt-bags.
It is not at all surprising that self-absorbed narcissistic dirt-bags do not find rewards in parenting. The rewards of parenting come from GIVING of oneself, and self-absorbed narcissistic dirt-bags only know how to TAKE.
Raising my children has been the most rewarding a joyfyul experience of my life. Nothing else even comes close.
I agree. There is a strain of libertarianism that mistakes liberty for license and seems to view personal responsibility as a constraint rather than a precondition for an orderly and free society. For that reason, they tend to devalue life rather than celebrate it.
No.
Because he is Promiscuous.
Nearly all gays are promiscuous, but there are promiscuous heterosexuals and they spout this same crap since parental obligations impinge not only on their own free time for sexual adventure - but parental and/or marital obligations on the parts of others reduce the available partners for their never ending lasciviousness.
Most of them hate God for creating a world not conducive to an eternal orgy, and they definitely strive to destroy the institution of the family - in order that there might be more playmates for their immature lifestyle.
Thanks. I plan on it.
There are a lot of people who don’t have kids you may want to think about that when you spout off thigns like you just said.I see many people in nusing homes who wait on their kids to come see them and they never come....so don’t be so sure!
I got a paper.
It says liberals are the reason for all the problems in this world.
The fact that I have this paper proves that it's true.
Thanks.
I think you make an excellent point, sir.
Generally speaking, that not libertarian; it's libertine.
A libertine wants to have his fun and have other people pick up his garbage; whereby he collects (unpaid for) social security check, medicare expenses and so on. A libertarian would pick up the tab for his own expenses, long after he's done being socially productive.
In a "fair" society, it might do an individual some good to have children to look out for his interests later in life, instead of letting the State machinery (paid for by others) do it for him.
Kids? What kids? There are very few kids now. Goodbye, public education and other left/liberal social experiments.
People never used to do all this naval gazing or ask all these selfish questions. They grew up surrounded by family that loved and served them and they thought of doing nothing but the same thing as they matured - giving love to others and serving others. They mirrored the behavior that they were raised with - service and love to humans, family — thus service to God. It was the default, just done automatically, like breathing in.
The results of a natural outflow of giving love and service to others were true love, joy, peace, contentment, etc - all that good stuff.
The worst day at work can be countered by a young son or daughter yelling “Daddy!” and running to you when you walk through the front door.
And on that point obviously ignore the Scripture that over and over assert that children are a blessing.
Do you seriously doubt that reaching the end of your life and knowing there's nobody to care, whether they visit regularly or not, is a pretty empty feeling? I visited all of my grandparents and one great grandparent in nursing homes and hospices as a child and an adult. Didn't enjoy it a bit. But you can be sure the family's existence was pretty important to the infirm and dying, even when we weren't there.
So you if you've chosen to be childless to enjoy the finer things in life without complications while you are robust, just know there will come a time when the world you have chosen has no more use for you, other than any money you may have accumulated.
If John Cloud is as miserable as he appears to be he should just pull the trigger now.
It basically comes down to:
You shouldn’t have children if you’re extremely selfish and if your primary concern is monetary gain.
Who’d have guessed?!
Thanks, Time! Thanks, “science”!
Correct X 3. My wife gave up a well paying job (more than I made) when our daughter was less than 6 months old. She was on maternity leave for several weeks after our little girl was born. That was the best investment we ever made.
The author obviously does not have any children.
I read a few replies and someone pointed out that he is gay.
Same here. I hear when the grandkids come and visit, you spoil them and then send them home as a "payback". :~)
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