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I could just as easily turn around the argument and say women marry for love and the men change and treat them like dumb servants, ignore the children and cheat. The woman takes it all she can then finally leaves, knowing she won't ever live in the same style because there is no way she can make the same kind of money her husband made. I could say American men are spoiled and lazy and want some fantasy version of a wife who is 6 feet tall, all legs, tiny waist and just waiting to hop into bed with them the moment they give the signal. Don't you see how silly it is to blame American women for the divorce rates in this country? I do agree marriage isn't treated with the respect it should be - but I don't blame any group of people - it is an individual situation (or couple actually).

You think women from Eastern Europe stay in an American marriage longer due to their customs or beliefs back home. I think it could have more to do with being treated like a second class citizen here by their husbands or their fear of not being able to support themselves. Probably both viewpoints have some validity.

I still think that marriage should be based on love and respect - and if you go shopping for a bride in another country then you are buying her based on her appearance, not on the values marriage should have as a foundation. If she has put up with whatever you claim she had to deal with, then congratuations - you found one that either came to love you or depends on you completely to the point of putting up with more than an American woman would put up with. That statement should have stood out to you even as you typed it - the fact that it doesn't is very sad.

Yea, I am certainly a loser and my dumb immigrant wife has no choice but to stay wedded to me.

Even so, that works - and keeps society stable (or at least our household). I have a lot more to show at this point in my life than my divorced friends, or never-married friends - so I don’t mind a few jabs regarding the airhead that I married.

But needless to say, I will continue to advise EVERYONE that I can to STAY AWAY FROM AMERICAN WOMEN...unless they want to greatly increase the odds of having a life filled with drama and legal bills (which most don’t).

Anyway, not that many people listen to me, so don’t worry so much about it - but on the other hand, a heck of a lot of successful career men have figured out (on their own) what I advise, and live happy lives for it.