Skip to comments.The Emotional Corrosion of Casual Sex
Posted on 12/20/2010 6:48:08 PM PST by Maelstorm
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If one really takes the time to look through the literature it becomes fairly clear that the hyper-stimulation of the hypothalamus gland can cause damage to the gland causing it to shrink or change structure while causing individuals to need larger and larger doses of naturally occurring sex hormones involved in natural sex bonding. Just insulin receptors can be desensitized it is clear a similar thing can happen involving sex which can led to depression, other addictions, abnormal sex bonds, increasingly risky sexual behavior to achieve the sexual high.
I don't think it is strange that some studies show homosexuals have morphological changes in their hypothalamus being somewhat smaller. What you one isn't often told is that a study in rats showed that when a group of male rats were divided into two groups one which was presented with an endless string of females in heat while the other group disinterested females that the group of hyper-sexed males had significantly smaller hypothalamus regions at the end of the experiment where as before the experiment they did not. I suspect you'd find the exact same thing in sex addicts, and other sexually disordered populations.
If you have any emotional depth then you will find casual sex to be something empty, meaningless and completely soul depriving.
I am saving this for when my daughter is older....there’s so many things I wish I had truly understood the repercussions of and didn’t. This is really well written - thank you for posting it.
I have always found an odd discontinuity between the “progressive” attitudes towards casual sex and rape.
If sex is something that can and should be indulged in with a recent casual acquaintance, we are saying that it has no more emotional or moral significance than having a cup of coffee together. This attitude is well demonstrated by a populat slogan from a few years back, “Sex is nature’s way of saying hello.” If so, then being forced to engage in sex should be no more damaging or desctructive than being forced to sit and drink coffee.
Yet just about everyone, including most liberals, agrees that rape is profoundly damaging. To my mind the two attitudes do not logically fit together. Either sex is something much too important to be casual about, or rape should be no big deal.
This is so true. Like most other things, sex can be beautful or it can be ugly. It all depends on whether we follow God’s plan for us or not. I know of what I speak.
This article happens to be right-on, BTW.
You are welcome. We all have to find some things out the hard way. The key is what we learn especially with how to be honest with ourselves. Look at how much our society has been hurt with naive ideas about sex. Trillions is spent in an attempt to patch the damage while the people the money, tolerance, and free love is supposed to help are left even more damaged even more lost and often in a state of near permanent emotional detachment because they become incapable of establishing the deeply personal bonds that are very much a part of what it is to be human. The profile of the most promiscuous have several things in common, depression, drug use, risky sex behavior, increased risk of suicide. The good thing is that this kind of thing can get better. People can and do escape the prison of their own making.
I find it really disturbing how many young men are becoming “addicted” to porn via the internet & claiming sex addiction has become a defense when caught by wives & girlfriends.
Thanks, Bill Clinton. He really helped lower the bar for an entire society.
Excellent, Maelstorm, excellent! Dead right-on, and goes into the real reason casual sex, or any sex outside of the marriage relationship is extremely damaging.
Believe it or not, I addressed this subject - in a much less thorough manner due to the purpose and brevity of the book - in a little book I wrote in the early ‘90’s for young singles, which ended up being highly recommended by no less than Elisabeth Elliott. It is titled, “Male and Female Created He Them” and is on God’s original purpose in creating these two totally opposite creatures who desperately need each other and compliment each other - and all God’s enemy has done to attempt (often successfully) to keep that purpose from being achieved.
For any who are interested, it is out of print, but can be found here:
I may have missed it, but if I didn’t, do you have the source for the rest of this piece?
excellent article. thanks for posting
Do you really think that Bill Clinton caused significant damage?
Paris doesn't agree.
That's a good point. I never thought of that.
I know that in my younger days when I was first in the service and sowing my wild oats that this was true for me. I was much more hurt and damaged when I fell in love with a girl in high school who I was very good friends with and when I told her she “just wanted to be friends”. I still think about her to this day and still get sad. Even though I am married to a wonderful woman and we love each other dearly.
Must read and pingout tomorrow placemark.
If you post articles relevant to my ping lists, please ping me (if you have time etc).
Everything was great until the Armstrong part. I seem to remember reading something about him and it was not very reassuring.
I have not read her books, but I did BSF when it was only five years, and she wrote the lessons. Awesome recommendation.
Thanks for posting this
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