so far, I’ve basically just fallen silent whenever my wife wants a verbal sparring match...can’t argue with someone who ain’t talkin...
of course, we’ve been married less than a year. I’m sure I will need to devise new tactics as the years progress...
Silence is Golden. People simmer down. It’s easy to not say harsh words, but not so easy to unsay them.
People can’t change others, they can only change themselves.
When I got married we had some really bad fights. It was horrible actually. We were both bad. Finally I just started holding my damn tongue and it made a huge difference. If I get very irritated, I just hold my peace and often pray - helps a lot, we rarely fight now.
Might want to talk to andy58-in-nh - or read his stuff further up the thread...