Your #10 is a very charitable response to what was an uncharitable comment(s). Well done. I could learn some things from you.
If you want to learn some things, my recommendation would not to be to learn from me but to study the gospels, and one of either The Imitation of Christ by Thomas A Kempis or Inroduction to the Devout life by St. Francis de Sales. The last two are full of gems on how to imitate Christ.
This is not to say that there are not other things that have value, but too often people flit over the foundational things that are rich and solid, and can be re-read many times with profit, and devote time to what is secondary or tertiary.
I hope that this is not too preachy, but to the extent that I have learned anything myself, it is not me, but simple and yet commonly neglected spiritual gems.