Well, the point was the stupidity of the people asking...the kids are chinese, we are not...at some point the kids would have caught on.
We have always celebrated their “gotcha” days like an extra birthday (much to the faux consternation of our biological children, who love their adopted siblings dearly). We have social outings with other families that have adopted, and we meet up with our travel group a couple times a year.
Adoption is celebrated here as a good thing, not some dark secret to keep hidden.
Be sure to learn and then teach them about some East Asian peculiarities ~ like eating rice ~ they appear to be adapted to it with some genetic changes. And about kim chee ~ necessary to live in a world where people are all the time trying to kill you by adding milk and milk byproducts!
Your post made me smile. Good for you, mom.
My point, and question, was did it cause a major change in their lives, or did they just view it rather casually and go on.
Seems like, from your description, it was the latter.