I was brought up this way. There were never any alcoholics in my family or any families we knew.
Red wine, especially, contains resveratrol and other anti-oxidants which are suspected of removing free radicals and are a circulatory aid, as well.
In that order. Circular. Balanced. Healthy.
What is UNHEALTHY is behavior in many US bars, people standing up, drink in hand, swigging like crazy, no food, not even a snack in sight, and no meaningful conversation...just ear splitting music.
In my opnion, this is anthetical to Italian style family drink...this (the latter) in my mind, encourages binges, barfing and alcoholism. I think it is all the manner in which you introduce alcohol into your system, and being social and communal about it is a big plus.