“May I add: 5) Be careful about posting info about extremely personal and potentially litigous nature?”
This is the 21st Century with technology not available in the past. It is not wrong for an individual to post on a forum asking for input... the poster did not expose who he was, his family or their location, nor the identity of the person posting or the perpetrator of all the problems.
There is a chance that someone from the church, business, etc. could surmise who these people are, but the chances of that are remote and the poster did not break the law in any way (slander, threats, etc.).
I guess I just prefer keeping my own personal business of this type of nature to myself, and hope that others would as well. But I forget, we live in the facebook age where people update their status every five minutes and tweet the number of toilet sheets they use when they go to the bathroom.