I am sorry you had such a hard time in your childhood. I can tear up easily thinking about the children of divorce, kidnapping and abandonment. We hurt too many innocent souls with so much marital strife in our society.
Most of the folk jumping into this discussion have genuine reasons for their strong feelings. I do understand the terrible effects of divorce, especially no-fault divorce.
My words were meant to bring some perspective to help close the circle on the reality of parental "kidnapping."
What real life is like for those caught in the middle; for those whose parent wishes to "save" or even to use to "punish" the spouse, by the other who feels "cheated" out of their home and family in a divorce.
Childhood and early adulthood was spent lonely and longing for a "real family," real intimacy and genuine trust that never came.
After spending decades being confused as to who I was and whether I really mattered, I was able to find Jesus Christ. Through Him, I've learned to forgive my dead father and now dead mother to live a life of abundance and true meaning.