I think you might be mistaken. There's a long thread about the Chicago bathhouses from last December, and at the top of page 2 on that thread is a post about a book which deals with the phenomenon of black men on the down low --- apparently living as heterosexuals, but belonging to an extensive network of covert homosexuals. The NYT did a very long story about this, and links to that article are also somewhere in the thread below, the Free Republic thread is called, OPEN SECRETS AND MEDIA DARLINGS -- and somewhere in it is the link to a very well written, very interesting NYT article, let me know if you can't find the link to it, and I'll trace it down for you. The jist is, however, that nobody tells on anybody, because then they are outed, too.
open secrets & media darlings - - - http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2410869/posts