One of my favorite restaurants in town has a great policy. No kids, no substitutions and one credit card per table. The food is fantastic (Okinawan, Korean and Japanese fusion) and reasonably priced. If your are brave when it comes to food you can tell your server what you want to spend per person and the Chef will send you plate after plate of wonderful dishes. Last time we went we got local fresh sea urchin, yellowtail, grilled duck hearts, a Korean meatball dish and braised shortribs to die for among other things a 20 bucks per person.
I was a cook at some better upscale casual restaurants for a while and a lot of thought goes into some dishes to create a sense of balance with the textures and flavors. Substitutions can mess up the flow and routine of the kitchen. If a dish has something that I don’t care for I will order something else.
I know a Sushi place like that in White Plains, NY. The chef decides what you will eat. If you don't like it, then go someplace else. One of the best sushi experiences that I have ever had -- ever!!!