The problem is that it is not ‘his’ son.
The boy’s mother has already set the rules.
The stepdad has a right to make his case but it’s a bit late to enforce the new rule.
JMO
It's not about whether or not it is his son - he is not telling them they cannot have sex. It is his HOUSE, and he has the right to set the house rules - the stepson can either comply or leave.
I think that's BS. He's 22. He seems to be acting like he is still in high school with no responsibilities. He's out of college. He can get a job, earn his own money, get his own place to live.
If he can't handle 'new' rules - and fact is, he knows it is bothering his step-dad - then move out. And if he cries to mommy, then he is proving he is using his step-dad just for free roof over his head.
As uncomfortable as it might be because he is not 'his' son, it is HIS HOME. Man up and have some tough love. Might be best in the long-term.
Hey Carley,
While the boy is a step-son, the fact the “kid” is doing it in his house is a much larger factor IMO.
It is never late to make a rule especially if it is an issue that is bothering the guy. Its his house, period.
BTW, I am a 47 year old male engaged to a similar aged gal. When we visit both sets of our parents, we sleep in separate beds. Neither of us would dream of putting our parents in that situation.
Only if he’s not the head of his own house. Geez, it’s not too late to say “this has made me uncomfortable and I can’t put up with it anymore”