[latina4dubya]

then letting him make himself “at home” for a couple months might be in your long term best interests.

but the son may realize that things are just too cozy to leave, and those couple of months can turn into a couple of years... it's the man's house... he's the one who should be comfortable in it...

[allmendream]

You abridged my comment. The first part of the sentence was roughly ‘If he appears to be motivated to move out ASAP....................then letting him make himself “at home” for a couple months might be in your long term best interests.’

And it is also his wife's house. Women usually like their children to feel welcome in their home.

The poster didn't suggest that the stepson living there was a major problem, just him having overnight female guests. And a recent college graduate is not just some bum living with his mom for too long. No doubt he intends of starting his own life.

Although as I ALSO pointed out, if it looks like he might want to overstay his welcome, and his wife is backing him on the “no female overnight guests”; that would definitely “light a fire under his a$$” as far as motivating him to move out on his own.