After my divorce (which, after 20 years of marriage, was “sprung” on me, out of the blue, with the delivery of the papers), I have learned to ask this question of people who are thinking of getting married: Do you remember your fiance ever, in your entire relationship, sincerely and specifically apologizing for something? If not, run, don’t walk from that relationship, for they will blame YOU for everything that goes wrong in their life. You will be the cause of all their suffering, real or imagined.
The kids are selfish. Divorce is good for kids. They get twice as many gifts on holidays and birthdays. They get to go to ball games with Dad they never normally would have been invited to, one-on-one shopping at the mall with Mom, a little extra cash in the birthday card from Grandma, two bedrooms, two sets of clothes, two puppies, a laptop at one place and a high-def widescreen with Blu-Ray at the other. But do they object? Nooooooooooo...