I did not allow overnights, etc. but to "forbid" it is a exercises in futility. I honestly do not know if my now adult son is a virgin, and I don't want to know (really) but I also did not spend 24 hours a day with him.
The most you can hope for when raising children is that they grow up to be well adjusted, moral, adults. But part of growing up is making your own decisions, and unfortunately your own mistakes. In my case, so far, so good. I have a college freshman (now a single college freshman) that made the Deans list in his first semester!
Despite the hype, teen mothers do not always produce children who become teen parents. I was born when my mother was 16 and don’t have any children. None of my 4 sisters had a child before 22 years old either.
You are spot on. I lost mine on my 16th birthday. I am 38 years old happily married with two great kids. I only had a couple of other relationships before I met my wife. I was no way a major player but I did not abstain.
I still regret it. It saddens me sometimes. Sex before marriage is empty and causes nothing but trouble. My kids will be taught that. Whether they heed is out of a parents control.
Oh on another note I am not overly religious but I do have a ton of morals. If that makes sense.