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"You also risk having the idiot parents come back in five years and bankrupt you with suits in which they demand to have the child back." In Texas after the adoption this is not possible.

My middle Brother has adopted two children. Both as babies. One was from a meth head mother who died eight months after the birth. The baby turned out fine, but my Brother was going to adopt him regardless of his health. The other from one of their friend's niece who felt she was to young (17/18) to have a child. I also have a friend who has adopted four children from Russia, so I am clear on what it takes to adopt from there. I agree that adopting is not for everybody, but if one wants a child that bad then it shouldn't be an obstacle.

You may recall the terrible case in Illinois, in which the parents of a child they had given up for adoption came back to get the child when it was about five. They managed to take that poor little boy from the only mommy and daddy he had ever known. I can’t imagine his devastation. Monsters of selfishness. But you can see why people who live in states where this is possible are leery of adoption. Used to be, with sealed adoption records this wasn’t possible.