“If gayness was hereditary and based on some actual physical nature, heterosexuals wouldn’t be attracted to same-sex people who simply dressed opposite.”
Not sure I understand the logic here. Once most heterosexuals find out that it’s “tranny surprise” time, they get the heck out of there. How is the fact that some men can’t tell a woman from a man in drag at a distance or in a dimly lit setting proof of much of anything?
Well, think about it for a minute. What does it mean to be “attracted” to a person? What is it that “attracts” the man to the other man who is dressed like a woman. What is it that later “turns him off”?
What does it mean to be “gay”? Does it mean you prefer anal sex? Is there a difference between a man and a woman in that regard? Does it mean you prefer oral sex? Is there a difference between a man and a woman in that regard?
Why to men in prison have gay sex? Do they turn gay? I don’t think so. But they seem to enjoy having gay sex — because they overcome their conditioned aversion to it. The sex isn’t about attraction, or love, it’s just a sexual release, and they can “enjoy” it at the hands of a man.
Of course, men have sex with animals as well, and they mostly don’t “love” them.
Now, what is it that defines a person as being “gay”? It can’t be anything to do with wanting to have “gay sex”, since as we just noted, gay sex is not something that requires a male partner.
So, it must be an attraction to the “personality” of man. But now we have to consider that some men have feminine personalities. In fact, in many cases we see gay men as being feminine, and it “makes sense” to us they are attracted to men, since they seem to be female. We conveniently ignore that the man they are attracted to is masculine, but have chosen a male who has feminine qualities.
My theory is that these men simply find that other men are easier to understand because, being men, they understand men, while they don’t understand women. I think they also have rejection issues, and find it easier to deal with men who tend not to reject people like women do.
My point is that we are treating “gayness” as some mystical attraction men have to other men instead of women — but if there was such a mystical attraction, it wouldn’t be deceived by appearance. Man is turned off when they see male parts, because they wanted female parts, but until that time they seemed to have no trouble being attracted to another male, to interact in a sexual and loving way.
Likewise, you’d expect that a gay person could have that happen with a woman who dressed like a man.
Note that in the popular fictional culture, we have stories where women are dressing like men and males are attracted to them but feel bad about that because they think it makes them gay.
In Tootsie, they played the same story with the woman being attracted to Tootsie and thinking she was a lesbian.
In fact, she was attracted to the feminine, loving personality Dustin Hoffman played, not a “female”.
Anyway, this has been rambling. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to write this coherently, or if I do if it would ever be acceptable to do so because of the censorship of discussion of these issues.