And it is assinine rules such as this that caused me to leave the Catholic Church.
Yeah about that, after dealing with my own ego and about 100 or so people like you making the same stupid statements over 13 years. The truth is you want to be your own Pope.
It's all ego and pride. You committed some sin that you think you know best. You don't feel that you need to go to confession for it, so you blame the Church and take a hike to some place that will tell you "There, there, it's okay"
News flash been there done that, and was smart enough to get over myself.
You might want to consider the same thing.
Sorry for being harsh, but you are going to either ignore this or tell, me I don't know what I am talking about, Just like everyone else.
Just so you know If I am wrong about you it will be the first time, and I am not wrong about you either.
The Apostle who wrote the most about marriage was Paul and he had plenty to say it seems. Paul thought it better man not marry actually. Paul too was human.
Marriage to someone with severe physical disabilities is a serious act and a commitment beyond the typical traditional marriage as it means one of the spouses will also be a caregiver till death do you part.
I do remember this much though. When my wife went into rehab the Director asked us how long we had been married. We said about a month. He breathed a sigh of relief and told us this much. Couples who marry into a disability situations after the fact fair far better than those who were married to healthy spouses who became severely disabled. He had seen plenty not last beyond rehab. The healthy spouse wanted the old spouse back and rejected them.
GOD's calling or vocation is different to each person. When call calls on a person to do something and the person refuses and does otherwise that is sin. The calling may be to preach the Gospel to distant lands. It may be to teach a Sunday School Class or be a Priest. It may well also for reason GOD has yet to reveal to become married into what many would see as being an impossible situation.
What good does it do me or anyone else if I live by every church law yet lack the compassion and love Christ asked of us? What good would it do me to ignore a calling by the Spirit and turn away instead and say no? What good does all the laws written do for man when they lack love and compassion to help the very ones Christ ministered to the most?
In my own situation GOD's hand was in it as even the mere chance I would have ever met the woman I am married to now were nil. It was a chain of events which occurred after my wifes death any one of which my decision would have meant we never would have met had I not thought out my choice. One choice I made the one that put us in the same location was a slip of my tongue by taking a job offer I was calling my boss to turn down instead the words flew out I'll do it. Well I said it so I did. The next year to follow was a spiritual journey which turned me inside out and test my faith more than it ever had been. By The Grace Of GOD I survived and His will prevailed.
I would tell anyone considering marriage in a disability situation to think long and hard and pray for guidance. It's been a real blessing to me and I can not think of another woman Icould have had a better life together with despite our many struggles. As for having kids? LOL we're raising two right now both of us in our 50's. A situation we did not wish for but yet refused to run from either. I've helped raisse 4 kids now none of them I fathered. GOD knew what He was doing.