Hadn't you heard that life isn't about truth? It's about feelings.
If you don't get the answer you really, really wanted when you ask a question, it's because the truth is mean.
No one here wants a God who asks sacrifices of us.
It's about faith and some it seems are lacking in it. IF a spouse married to someone who is incapable of a sex act makes them tempted then how much more so those who are required vows of celibacy for Nun's or Priest? Sex is only a part of marriage it does not make it or break it. Ever hear of the term adversity? Adversity is GOD's tempering tool to mode, shape, and strengthen persons. One believer facing adversity is strong through the Grace of GOD. Two persons facing adversity together are very strong especially I GOD is in the marriage because Three Cord Rope is not easily broken.
So which is it? Church Laws or compassion, love and mercy GOD ask of us? You, me, the Pope, nor a Protestant preacher does not know whom GOD brings together, His Divine purpose or reasoning for the union may not be known for years later. Christ warned us all of becoming obsessed with Laws while ignoring compassion, love, and mercy. I understand the situation and the answers should come from the couple and an answer from GOD himself via The Holy Spirit. Or is that a feeling also? I don't think so. The presence of the Holy Spirit and guidance can be a very Live, overcoming, and real event.
Thank you for your support, I was beginning to wonder if I was the only one on this side of this issue.
What do either of you know about the sacrifices a spouse to a disable person makes? What do you know about what GOD may ask of a person to do? It is not something to be taken lightly. 23 years +two weeks ago I buried my beloved first love in the prime of our lives. Two months later I found friendship with a woman raising two kids alone. The friendship grew but marriage wasn't the goal. Then came the afternoon when our world as we knew it changed forever. She nearly died while I was rushing her to the hospital. That evening her arms would not come down from her chest. The doctors told us quadriplegia and gave little hope. A week later two preachers entered her room and I was there. But there was another in there as well as the men began praying over her and laying on hands.
A very real presence we all felt a voice only I heard. "It's going to be OK". Well Praise the Lord she's gonna walk soon. Nope a few weeks passed no walking just hand movement.
Feelings? Yea I had some them I lost all feeling I had for anyone including myself. I panicked and I ran but not far or long. I went back that night and a Nun {I'm not RC BTW} talked to me and asked me what was troubling me and I tried to explain it. She said the body and mind must have rest. It worked.
But what about what I was told? What did it all mean? I loved this woman and she loved me. She was facing 4 more months in the hospital. I knew in my heart what was to be although I did not understand and acted in faith because what was being asked of me I was incapable of doing especially the rest of my life. I asked her to marry me. Not out of pity or sense of duty but rather love. I knew in my heart what was right and I knew not to do so was wrong. Running away did not work.
Man oh man we had a rough time the first year. As our time together grew so did our bond so did our GOD dependency to see us through. 14 years ago came my disability. GOD works in mysterious ways. I have the brawn she needs and she has the ability to help me when I have problems functioning mentally during attacks.
How wonderful and wise GOD is to see into our futures and place us together :>} Now I would hate to think of where I would be now had I not married my dear wife. ADVERSITY! The Potters tool to strengthen his creations. It took me over a decade to realize "It's going to be OK" and why.