> I am an addict in recovery myself. The issue is not the drugs. The SYMPTOM is the drugs. The ISSUE is the incredible lack of self-worth and absence of any self-love.
OK, let’s say that it is as you say (it probably is). How much of that can you fix, without damaging yourself in the process? (the latter part being most important — “always put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others” as the airlines say.)
If she does not value herself, you can’t make her do it.
I’d argue that the drugs exacerbate the problem of low self-esteem. Just possibly they cause it. One thing that I do know is this: the price you will pay for finding out is likely to be far too high.
Don’t toss her on the trash heap: definitely don’t do that. That wouldn’t be kind, and it wouldn’t be right. But her solution begins when she can set aside the drugs. From there she has a base upon which she can build.
But the drugs have to go. First. If she cannot do that, then you probably cannot help her.
Nobody can, in that case.
She must help herself.