Though I felt pity for Virgie for her losses, I was instinctively turned off the minute she opened her mouth at the ‘body possession’ hearings. It’s not the same as the visceral feeling of evil that surrounds HKS or KE (for me), but let’s just say I could not in a million years feel respect for or warmness toward her. I’d love for her to prove me wrong.
The REAL person in this mess is Dannielynn.
Larry is the adult toward whom my support LEANS for a few reasons. The first is because, in an age when men run away from responsibility for their children, he fought for it. Second is because he is from my home state. Third is a fondness because he and my daughter earned the same degree from the University of Louisville so I can readily relate to part of his life. The other players in this saga could be from Mars as far as my realm of acquaintances goes.
I’m trying to envision myself in Virgie’s position. It’s a real stretch because my relationship with my daughter is like daylight and dark different than what ANS and Virgie had. In my situation even having pets is not referred to as ‘ownership’.
I've found it helpful to get perspective to go back and review timelines. There shouldn't have been a 'body possession hearing' at all. Virgie, as the mother of an unmarried daughter, was there to claim her daughter and her grandbaby, and go home to contemplate her death. First HK, then LB, filed their own separate claims, HK for his own reasons, and LB for DNA testing. Two separate judges refused to hear custody/paternity. In the meantime, Anna's father, Don Hogan, turned up to view his daughter's body and pay his last respects at the ME's office, and was turned away, as not being 'on the list'. Sadly, he was unable to travel to the Bahamas for the funeral. The judge should have swabbed Anna's cheek, given the body to the mother, and called it a day. (IMO) In one way, it ws a good thing to have the hearing, because it gave the mother boo-koo amunition to go after at least civil charges; in another, it was a time for TMI, that could have been addressed after the funeral, with a judge, who hadn't made back-room deals not to pursue certain topics.