Taking a opposite view of yours isn’t being mean-spirited...
You’re right, but it wasn’t your opinion that was mean-spirited, it was your tone, and it wasn’t just towards me, it was towards almost everyone, except a couple of posters who agreed with your opinion completely with expressing any opinion of their own.
I've been reading that California has liberal grandparent laws, so it's somewhat possible Virgie could be more successful there if she's merely seeking 'visitation' rights.