I understand and agree with your point, but would offer the following.
The conditions for children up for adoption in America are far superior to the conditions faced by children up for adoption in third world countries.
I'm not suggesting that American kids up for adoption have it good, or are living high on the hog, but there is no comparison between the conditions in the U.S. and in the majority of the rest of the world.
Even kids in the former Soviet states have it immensely worse than orphans here in America.
Drive down to the local orphanage and give us a live report.