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“””””The mother is an enabler, but I have not faced her problems so I can’t say for sure what I would do.””””

I trust you are referring to ‘your’ friend in this sentence, because it has been reported that Virgie was a ‘tough love’ 28yr police officer/mother who warned Anna that she would arrest her if she found drugs in her possession.

Anna was married at 17 and a mother at 18. She was an adult and on her own before she became a drug addict. Long past Virgie’s ability to influence her behavior.

Virgie certainly was not an enabler. This woman is now grieving the loss of a daughter, grandson and trying to save the life of a granddaughter. She has also successfully raised stepchildren. We should all walk a mile in her shoes before criticizing her like the d*mn media does.

I was referring to my friend...Virgie acknowledged ANS had a problem, and I believe she was instrumental in getting her into the Betty Ford Clinic. My friend knows her daughter has a problem, but doesn’t hold her accountable...it’s the doctor’s fault for giving her prescriptions - which she pays for. Before the daughter’s condition deteriorated so badly and she couldn’t hold a job, her mother always blamed the employer when she was terminated because they ‘were mean to her’, 'didn't explain what they expected’, and on and on, but never blamed the daughter for bad behavior and being ‘stoned’ at work.