Possibly....could be physical OR mental OR emotional...and yes, you’re right...they hate letting go and when faced with the possibility, that is often when they become violent. If my suspicions are correct...look what happened to both Daniel and Anna.
I’m sorry to hear you’ve had to tolerate such a similar situation for soooo many years...how have you kept your sanity? I was with mine for 13 years and by the time I got out, “I” truly ceased to exist. That was 20 years ago and I’ve been so afraid I’d attract another that I never even thought about marrying again.
I don’t know about sanity, but it’s taken a toll on my physical health. I went from being carded for alcohol to senior citizen discount card. I’ve gone back to coloring my hair again. I’m only 47.
I don’t trust anyone, anymore. My bf was burned even worse by his ex wife, and he’s the same way. No more marriages for me. Once was enough. The worst thing is the kids suffering through the whole ordeal. Point to ponder: kids growing up in these types of situations sometimes either turn into abusers or end up being abused.