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You said.."Most of these foster care kids can NOT be adopted due to the fact the parents will not release them to be adopted. Also, the amount of true orphans is very small in this country."

Wow! You are very VERY misinformed about what the foster care situation is all about. VERY. It has nothing to do with the parents not "releasing them for adoption." Do you have any idea how difficult it is to actually have children removed from the custody of their parents, and have the courts AGAINST THEIR WILL go through the legal process of having their parental rights terminated AGAINST THEIR WILL????? And how about trying this..in the liberal state of California? Kids are sent back home (like mine were, three times) because the social workers / attorneys are afraid to face a judge, and afraid to fight the birthparents, than to protect the innocent.

No matter what birth parents do to children in this country, they have ALL the rights and the children have NONE. You have no idea the kind of agonizing proof it takes the counties / state agencies to prove the parents cannot, will not take BASIC proper care of their children, or prove that the parents have neglected or abused their kids to the extent that their natural, God-given right to keep their own birthchildren is involuntarily removed.

So it has nothing WHATSOEVER to do with birthparents refusing to surrender their kids. Of COURSE they're not going to give them up to the government!!! Across the board, parents who commit atrocities against their own children maintain a strong victim mentality, and defend to the death their right to do whatever they want to towards their own children.

Even after parental rights are terminated, those same birth parents EACH have the right to appeal it, with taxpayer money, until the appellete courts decide that the letter of the law was followed in the termination of their parental rights, and that there is no hope of recovering any kind of healthy, meaningful, non-violent, appropriate parent/child relationship.

Yes, there absolutely ARE tens of thousands of orphans in this country -- who have been created by destructive birthparents who leave the courts no recourse but to remove them permantly. Until approved and matching adoptive homes are found, no judge is going to create a "legal orphan" and terminate parental rights. So until a family is found, the children remain in limbo, and the system placates to the birthparents until a case is built that can be substantiated in front of a Family Court Judge.

I think there are a lot of people who, like you, want to sanitize the foster care situation. There is a critical & newsworthy need for families to step up, get trained & educated, and figure out how to provide a future and a life and hope to these kids who are 100% victims, and who had no power to stop the evil being done to them by THEIR BIRTHPARENTS. It's easy to say -- there are very few orphans in this country -- because decades ago we got rid of orphanages. I'm sure many like you sleep well and step around families like mine who give a damn, and who decide it's worth every single bit of sacrifice to take in these children who deserve a life beyond neglect and abuse and despair.

The things that most children waiting to be adopted in foster care experience across the board are so disgusting and descipable that if you were eating your dinnner and i told you the stories, you would vomit all over your table. Most people can't handle it.

And yes, the absolute majority of children in this country longing to be adopted by a family of their own are OLDER because of the system that requires years of documentation & proof of the pervasive pattern of severe abuse & neglect. Meanwhile their childhood is being robbed month after month -- year after year -- of waiting in foster care, which is a very flawed system at best.

Combating evil is hard work. There is little praise or reward involved. It's not for the faint of heart, or the spoiled, self-absorbed Americans who believe they are entitled to not be bumbarded with all the despair around them, and all the messy lives of these pathetic creatures who might cause a new family some grief and heartache because of their fear and rage and hopelessness.

Some of us aren't afraid to get our hands dirty.